Therapy for Couples in Overland Park, Kansas
You are completely lost. A relationship that once promised to be an epic adventure together now feels like a tangled mess. You have no idea how you got here or how to find your way through. And it’s getting worse. With each painful encounter, it feels like the foundation of safety and connection is slowly but surely eroding, leaving you with fewer options for how to move and be with one another.
You wonder to yourself, “How did we get here?”
Compared to how your story began, where you are now feels a long way off. You wonder if there is hope for the two of you to create something more meaningful and more connected.
But each time you muster up hope, the pattern happens again. The same fight. The same moves. The same confusion over how a conversation about who is picking up your child has wandered into whether you can continue in a dynamic where you both feel so lonely and desperate to be heard and felt.
It’s a lot to ask of two people, each with their own unique stories, woundings, and adaptations to life, to make contact and create a meaningful life together.
But that will be our work.
To enter into each of your stories, as individuals and as a couple, and begin to untangle how these narratives have collided. We will identify the places where you can’t seem to figure it out yourselves, discover the hidden feelings and longings beneath the armor, and create a future where you can handle the rocky moments together and be teammates in building a meaningful life.
Having been through this process myself, I can appreciate the vulnerability and fear of entering this work. What if it gets worse, not better? What if we don’t make it? What if all this is a waste?
This therapy will not be about avoiding these tough questions but facing them and finding a way forward together. It is no small thing to invite someone into your relationship, and it would be my true privilege to journey with you in this sacred process.
Fill out my contact form or give me a call when you’re ready.
Frequently Asked Questions
How much does couples therapy cost?
$250 per 60 minute session.
What is your attendance policy?
At Advantage, we are devoted to the highest level of care for the clients we get to serve. In light of that commitment, we are only taking clients who are committed to scheduling a minimum frequency of once a week sessions.
You are allotted one cancellation per calendar year for each time that you attend per week. (For example, if you attend therapy twice per week, you are given two “free” cancellations.) You are not required to pay for sessions that I cancel. I will make every effort to alert you of my planned vacation times in advance.
You are also able to “make up” for cancelled appointments within the week before, the week of, or the week after the date of your originally scheduled appointment to avoid being charged for a missed session. I will make every effort to find a time for us to meet.
How long does couples therapy last?
Couples therapy is nearing a close when:
• You still get into conflict at times, but can slow things down and talk with more curiosity, calm, and clarity.
• You each feel freer to be yourself, while staying open to who your partner is becoming.
• You feel greater degrees of safety to allow the “uglier”, “needier” or “vulnerable” parts of yourselves to be seen and held.
Every relationship is different, but this work commonly takes 1-3 years of weekly attendance.
What type of couples counseling does Advantage Counseling practice?
My primary modalities of practice are in Emotionally Focused Therapy (for couples) and in Relational Psychodynamic Therapy. Both of these modalities focus primarily on affect (feelings, longings, unconscious beliefs) and the ways our stories get repeated in the present which can give couples a meaningful blend of in session emotional connection with also insight into the “why” of their own and their partner’s behavior.
Do you take insurance?
I am considered an out-of-network provider. If you have a diagnosis, I can provide you with a superbill after every appointment which contains all of the information your insurance company will need to reimburse you. I encourage you to consult with your insurance to find out about your out-of-network benefits.